Have you ever had growing feelings for a person but knew it was only in your head? WITW (what in the world)! As humans we build a wall around ourselves and our hearts after a certain amount of heartbreak and hurt. But there always seems to be one person who is able to slither in without you even realising it and this is the one person in the world that doesn't want to move forward with you romantically.. 2 steps forward 1 step back you can never get away. This is not just a phenomenon with one sex but happens to both males and females.
SO WHAT DO WE DO?
TAKE THE BALL BACK!
You must regain the dominant stance in the relationship. Love is a strong emotion and if it is one sided it is the most hurtful emotion... You must remember who you are what you stand for and your worth.
Stop being so available... Make them come to you... People love the chase. If you answer every time they call or your answer is always yes interest is lost... start saying no; start pressing ignore; let them call you more then they call u; let days go by with no interaction.. if the interest is really two sided this will create a drastic shift in the relationship dynamic.
Set a time deadline and stick to it.... Commitment is key in a relationship. If you are "talking" for 2 years the relationship is most likely not going anywhere. There are exceptions to this rule but for the most part it sticks. If someone is interested in taking things to the next level with you they are not going to want anyone else getting your time and "talking" does not satisfy this want. Set a time limit in your heart and be unwavering about it. When the deadline approaches talk about the relationship and where it is going. If no changes are made leave.. if they want to be with you they will make the change, if not count your losses, mourn and move on... make sure the time limit is reasonable 3 weeks is not a good time limit before leaving but 2 years is too long to have invested to not have any type of commitment.
NO GOODIES... Sex is an emotional bond between two people. You become bonded to that person and that is why things get so blurred after that step is made... Know who you are dealing with.. build a friendship before even considering that step.. Not everyone chooses celibacy but I need people to stop choosing stupidity. Your body is a precious gift and there is no need to give it to all that ask.. There is power and we all need to realise it..
Women Be Found.... He that finds a wife finds a good thing.. This is how it was intended to be. DO NOT CHASE!!! you will be categorized as easy. you will be played with and tossed to the side. regain your stance and stand firm.
Be consistant in who you are and what you stand for... Remember that you are exceptional no matter the circumstance and there is someone out there for you.. Never become desperate and appreciate the waiting period...
Move things from out of your head to reality!
